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Q. Why did you write this book?
SG. There are a lot of parents out there whose child has died who think that death is the end of their relationship with that child. This book hopefully helps parents or anyone understand that the people they love who died still exist and can still exist in their lives. The book is a different way of looking at death and grief.
Q. How does it look at death differently?
SG. People think they have to find closure after the death of someone close to them. But you can continue a relationship without having contact. If a husband dies, the wife continues to love the husband. She doesn't consider herself divorced. She may get remarried. But her love remains. She doesn't have to let go of her love for her first husband to move on with her life. People who pass over don't stop loving us. And we don't have to stop loving them.
Q. You state that most people misunderstand Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's five stages of grief. Can you explain?
SG. Those stages - Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance - are the stages an individual moves through upon learning of a terminal illness. People have misconstrued those stages to apply to grief. But we don't go through those stages in that order in the grieving process. The misconception sets people up to think that we go through that process and we don't.
Q. What are the stages of grief that you experienced?
SG. For me, it was numbness, unrelenting pain, searching and reinvestment. And those are not going to fit everyone. No two people hurt exactly the same way or for the same reasons. I don't agree that grief has specific steps that we go through, in a defined sequence, for a specific period of time. Grief is an individual process.
